Question: Communication etiquette… For instance, you are in a small group setting, a presentation, a meeting, a book club, etc. The etiquette of interjection vs interruption?
Interjection or Interruption?
The Quiet Art of Speaking Without Stealing the Floor
In today’s fast-paced conversations—whether in meetings, book clubs, presentations, or informal group discussions at WIN—the line between interjecting and interrupting is often crossed without intention. Yet, as Emily Post reminds us, good manners are not about rigid rules; they are about consideration for others. How we enter a conversation speaks volumes about our respect, emotional intelligence, and leadership presence.
The distinction is simple but powerful:
An interjection adds value while honoring the speaker.
An interruption redirects attention to oneself at the expense of another.
Let us explore how this plays out in real life.
Scenario 1: The Team Meeting
You are in a meeting, and a colleague is outlining an idea. Halfway through, you have a relevant insight.
What not to say:
- “That won’t work.”
- “You’re missing the point.”
- “Actually, no—what we should do is…”
These phrases stop the speaker mid-thought and imply correction rather than collaboration.
What to say instead:
- “May I add something once you’re finished?”
- “I’d love to build on that point.”
- “That’s interesting—could I offer another perspective?”
Emily Post emphasized timing and tone. Waiting for a natural pause, making eye contact, and asking permission transforms a potential interruption into a respectful interjection.
Scenario 2: A Book Club or Small Group Discussion
Someone is sharing a personal interpretation of a chapter, and you strongly disagree.
Don’t:
- Cut in with, “That’s not how I read it at all.”
- Laugh dismissively or speak over them.
Do:
- Let them finish.
- Respond with curiosity: “That’s an interesting take. I read it differently—may I share why?”
Courtesy does not require agreement; it requires acknowledgment. Conversation is a shared space, not a competition.
Scenario 3: During a Presentation
A presenter makes a point you believe is inaccurate.
Don’t:
- Interrupt publicly with corrections.
- Whisper commentary to others in the room.
Do:
- Note your concern and address it during the Q&A: “Thank you for the presentation. I had a question about the data you mentioned earlier…”
Respecting the structure of the moment preserves dignity—both yours and theirs.
Practical Do’s and Don’ts
Do:
- Listen fully before responding.
- Use phrases that invite dialogue, not dominance.
- Read the room—energy, hierarchy, and purpose matter.
Don’t:
- Assume urgency justifies interruption.
- Use volume, speed, or authority to overpower others.
- Confuse enthusiasm with entitlement to speak.
In essence, communication etiquette is not about silencing yourself; it is about sharing space gracefully. When we interject with intention rather than interrupt with impulse, we elevate not only the conversation—but our character within it.
Each month, we are lucky to take part in the WIN events, where courteous, friendly interactions elevate conversations and create genuine connections with like-minded women—in the most constructive and meaningful way. Cheers to that!
Gracefully Yours,
Chris
Christel J. Georges
Founder & Director | Simply Mannered
Certified Emily Post Children’s Etiquette Trainer
Institut Villa Pierrefeu Graduate 2011
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